My last post was written in an attempt to convey the fact that I feel as if I am running on borrowed time. Not the type of “borrowed time” that means short on life, but more the type of situation where there are so many things happening, nay converging, that when I get a moment I feel as if it’s borrowed from a future still pending. In my own estimation, I fell short of success in conveying that concept…not only did I not take the proper initiative to dissect where I was coming from, but the thought itself is an abstract and abstracts are hard for me to process. Hence the lazy output of my previous writing. To be plain, my last post is downright boring. A cop out at best. I thank you for reading through it, and I especially thank those of you who, with loving hearts, were able to decipher through my blasé code and find the real Rivka in the mix. You are my kindred spirits!
So I have some catching up to do…
First, the excitement of the day: My husband, my daughter, and I are heading to France in June. Brian (hubby) has been asked to play music at a festival in Biarritz, FR called, “Wheels and Waves.” He is also being recruited to that country to have an art show at a gallery in the same town, galerie 13 avril de biarritz. When he was asked to participate he said, “yes, but my wife must come along too.” So Brian and I are having an all expenses paid trip to France, and we decided we needed our daughter to be party to the endeavor as she is fluent in the language and we are not. Well simultaneous to the french connection came an offer from Japan. Again, my beloved said, “I will go but not without my wife.” So we return from France only to turn around and three days later take off for Japan. Only this time, Esther will not be with us as she only knows how to eat Japanese, not speak it!
Which brings me to the second item of ‘new and exciting’ in the Bent (but not broken) world of Rivka B. Upon our return from Japan, two days after our return to be exact, I will be starting a new job. A full time job. And though I am not quite yet at liberty to discuss the details of the position, or the employer, I am very much looking forward to this new opportunity, challenge, endeavor, direction. I assure you, more to come on this subject later…like mid-summer, later!
Third, but not last, as result of many, many (would it be too redundant to include about a thousand more “many’s?”), circumstances and prayers (“prayers” should be in caps for emphasis!), our Bent family is graduating from the ministry we were called to thirteen years ago. Yep, 13 years ago my husband and I knew without a doubt we were called to start an outreach ministry called, the Hotrod Church for Sinners (hotrodchurch.com). It has been, what I like to call, a catalyst ministry–a first step, if you will, toward a life of faith (we have also been blessed with several people who utilize it for their additional steps of faith as well). We have met in the same pizza/bar restaurant since its inception–free of charge. And have reached out to the people in society who feel, for whatever reason, unrecognized by the traditional church. The ministry has become so much more than that. It has been an extension of our family. It is funny, I was briefly looking through the photos taken at the hospital while my son was in ICU (from the brain tumor surgery) and I thought to myself, “what a diverse and colorful bunch of people we had supporting us, what a beautiful ‘family of friends’ we have been given–many as result of the Hotrod Church.” Now I like to joke (often), that the sinner part of the title is held by ‘yours truly’, though that part of the name came about more as a nod to the fact that we all know we are sinners and therefore don’t need to be told. At any rate, our last service in our little pizza restaurant will be Sunday, May 26. We are secure in the ending of this chapter, and we are excited for the next set of adventures our Lord in Heaven has for us…watch out homelessness, Brian’s got you on his radar! 🙂
Lastly (for now), is the present condition of my (our) son Cole. The good news, he is successfully living on his own. In fact, I will be surprised if he ever decides to come back home. This, in and of itself, is very positive, and I have to keep reminding myself of this truth. You see it is very difficult for my maternal eye to not fixate upon the things that aren’t so great–because it is in my nature to want to “fix” these things. Cole’s dependency upon narcotics and the cocktail of medications he receives, greatly disturbs my soul. Every day, I wait with anticipation to hear from him…when I do, I am thankful to have another day of assurance that he is alive. I have come to realize that this is my lot, the lot of being the mother. I will never have the ability to see my son through any other eyes than the maternal vision which was handed me at the time of his birth. I will always want the closest thing to perfection when evaluating his health and welfare. I will always utilize my critical eye with his circumstance because I am hoping for the best, most fulfilling life for my son. But what I have realized is that my maternal eye, and all that the concept encompasses, is not necessarily what he considers as “best.” And to that epiphany, I am learning to yield. So I am reminded, moment by moment, that he is making it…his way. And for today, that is a good and healthy place for him to be. It is his process, and I will take part as I am allowed, the challenge being not to take over! 😉
Well I will close within this theme. After all, it is Mother’s Day in the U.S.A. And though I had hoped to be given a quiver of 10, I have been blessed with my two natural born, who just by themselves make the quiver seem quite full! Yet in addition to the two, I have been blessed with many nieces and nephews (some of them technically cousins), young ladies who consider me a parental role model, children of longtime friends who humor me with their approval, and a few stragglers still grasping for any loving handout that comes their way…all of which bless my soul to play a part in their lives. Moreover, who make me realize that if my quiver of ten had in fact been given me, I would lack the capacity of mind for the dozens more I have been given in their stead.
P.s. I am sharing a piece of Hotrod Church history with the following video clip, including the fact our son is playing the drums while he was on leave from his military assignment…obviously pre-surgery.
…peace out and peace be with you…
living in loss and gratitude 
The Noise