I suppose I should write something profound and holiday spirited, after all this is the first day of the new year. But I tell you the truth, my soul is exhausted which makes for a significant roadblock to meandering philosophical terrain.
I am home and gratefully receiving a time of rest. Last night, for new year’s eve, I had the beautiful opportunity to get cozy on the couch and fall asleep at 7:30p.m. (pacific time). Earlier in the day Brian, Esther and I had an outing along the coast–they on roller-skates and I on my Raleigh Twenty. Today Esther, the dog Piper, and I had a long coastal walk on the sands of The Strand and Salt Creek beach while Brian surfed San Onofre. Yesterday and today I have been busy in the kitchen enjoying the freedom to cook without a time constraint, though our pangs of hunger were slightly dictating the direction of each meal. Both days I have been leisurely popping p-nut M&M’s in my mouth which have followed my, vegetable/whole grain rich, meals very well. And now as I attempt to write an engaging piece of prose, my daughter sits beside me as my husband and our two dogs relax on the floor finding solace in the comforting tones of Henry Mancini’s Peter Gunn.
Aaahh, what a life…what a nice break from the running I have been doing since May of 2013 (and well before). And though my heart and mind are thinking of a hundred different people (friends/family) I’d like to connect with, or pieces of garments I would like to sew, or sweet treats to make, I am resigned to the fact that this rest is most necessary. In fact, so much so, that I recognize the folly that would ensue should I not completely and properly receive this gift of a respite. For Brian, Esther and I are most definitely in agreement in regard to our current status–grief is a heavy to burden to carry, and as result we are soul tired.
Being in a ‘soul tired’ state means I don’t have much to offer right now. Not much by way of conversation. Not much by way of inspiration. Not much by way of supplication. Just not much. I’m giving myself (ourselves) one year…
One year to indulge the weight of grief. One year to just sit and be. One year to receive a bit more than I give. One year of staying at home and being quiet (in my free time of course). And so, even though we have the celebration of a new year upon us, for me, we are mid year. Mid grief. Mid loss. A “Happy New Year” will have to wait–at least the celebration of it. Our gifts and celebratory actions are found in the solitude of the love we share with each other. The hope and complete understanding of Heaven and the knowledge Cole has made it into Home-Base before us. We just have to rest here a bit, and endure the weight, until our souls become more accustomed to the heavy load.
An anecdotal story:
Esther wears a “military dog-tag” necklace in honor of her brother. They are not his U.S. Marine tags (though we have them in our possession), it is a special edition made for her in honor of him. While in the produce section of Costco the other day, the kind-hearted employee asked, “for whom do you wear the dog tag?” To which she replied, “my brother.” His response was precious, “Very good! Let us keep him in prayer and bring him home safe.”
Esther and I looked at each other and concurred, “he has indeed made it safely home.”
…now how about them oranges?!